tappers Posted June 22, 2007 Report Share Posted June 22, 2007 Took up Wing Chun martial arts a couple of weeks ago. Been great fun and met some great people. There is a girl / lady that goes and we have chatted quite a lot whilst being there, and I really like her The thing is..... I want to ask her out but the topic of me having a daughter and divorce etc has not come up, and I am not sure how she might react I have been advised by a mates girl friend that I should tell her before asking her out and see how she reacts and then take it from there or... Do I ask her out and tell her after seeing how things go Any advice welcome!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mac Posted June 22, 2007 Report Share Posted June 22, 2007 You know this is a real tough cookie. I've found that I've got to know people without bringing up my daughter/ex wife etc. Not through any intention, just because it doesn't come up. See then it becomes an acceptance that there is no ex or child. In my experience if you like the lass then be up front and explicit - it works so much better. I also appreciate I should follow my own advise sometimes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AZURES3 Posted June 22, 2007 Report Share Posted June 22, 2007 Tell her at the same time, if she is cool with it all then you have nothing to hide etc. Good luck AZ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mac Posted June 22, 2007 Report Share Posted June 22, 2007 Yes, and if she isn't, well now you know don't you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tappers Posted June 23, 2007 Author Report Share Posted June 23, 2007 AzureS3, when you say tell her at the same time how exactly do you mean?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jettadeluxe Posted June 24, 2007 Report Share Posted June 24, 2007 My advise, ask her about for drinks, not a 'date' as such, ut you'll find you'll chat and get to know more about each other. No doubt the topic of your past lives will come up and you can reveal your situation with divorse and daughter. If, when it comes to asking her out for a drink the next time, she is just as receptive as before, you know it makes no odds to her what your situation is. If she instead asks a little more conservative, you know that she may have an issue and would prefer just to be aquaintances. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted June 24, 2007 Report Share Posted June 24, 2007 ....Good advice from A8VIP . Just be casual and give the girl a chance to get to know and trust you a bit. Be yourself and you'll probably find that the conversation comes round naturally to such subjects. And if it doesn't and you still like her, arrange another casual meet and see if it comes up there. Just be honest in everything you do and say. My assistant and female psychologist lottiefox will probably be along soon to help you further in understanding those creatures from Venus. Dr Love Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mac Posted June 25, 2007 Report Share Posted June 25, 2007 Just throw rocks at her - that's what I used to do at school and it worked for me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hopsta Posted June 25, 2007 Report Share Posted June 25, 2007 Or wait til she has a car up for sale eh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mac Posted June 25, 2007 Report Share Posted June 25, 2007 That was a shocking bit of behaviour Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tappers Posted June 25, 2007 Author Report Share Posted June 25, 2007 Strange that, I just logged on and was thinking exactly what A8VIP has said.. The problem I thought was that if she was not sure about the whole daughter etc thing then I would not have the chance to talk her round Think I might try and that option and see where it goes! Any other advice?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vagabond Posted June 25, 2007 Report Share Posted June 25, 2007 Stop faffing and get a date sorted, then tell her about your life. If she likes you as much as you like her, there will be no problem. Go for it my boy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tappers Posted June 26, 2007 Author Report Share Posted June 26, 2007 But but... but.. I am a master at faffing!! alright! I am going to try... and ask her tonight if I make it home in time! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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